When our kids are growing up,do we physically make sure that child learns to crawl? Walk? Talk?
How about "Talk and Walk Class for Toddlers 101"?
Interestingly, language is the hardest thing to learn (we all know if we try to learn any new language), and children do it all on their own.
In fact, the speediest learning in humans occurs in the youngest years, when children generally play all day, be on his own ,makes his own inference of failure ,try again and most important there is no adult intervention or expectation or comparisons . Maybe nature didn't goof - maybe we can trust our children.
Children are designed to be curious. From birth on, they want to know and figure out everything. Children are driven to succeed. They are constantly challenging themselves and can actually accomplish it . All we have to do is trust :)
Our anxiety for children to know certain things at specific ages is an enormous obstacle to trusting and allowing their natural development. When children play and learn on their own, they are the only qualified authors of this magical process. It is rarely too late to acquire knowledge, but often it is dangerously too early and out of harmony with the internal journey of the child.
We work from our preconditioned thoughts /beliefs and overlook the process . We look for results and that too results which are in sync with our perception and not child's learning/experimenting process. We send our child to any workshop or skill learning classes and expect results ,though we say that it can't be overnight but how much trust and patience do we show to wait for our desired level of result?
In our desire for results,we completely forget the process of learning which child is exploring.
What kind of activities are effective in growth and learning? The answer is simple: self-initiated, self-directed activity.
Our intervention and input actually gets in the way. It is obvious why negative input is destructive, but not so obvious that positive input is just as destructive: When a child, builds a tower of blocks, she is driven by a pure interest and joy of creation and learning. When Dad looks at her creation and exclaims enthusiasm, she shifts her interest from her blocks to the purpose of inducing an enthusiastic reaction out of Dad. This can build up over the years to a dependency upon adult evaluation and result in a lack of self-trust and a loss of interest in doing for its own sake.
The pleasing child is constantly dependent upon her success to live up to parental expectations and can lose touch with who she really is, and what she is interested in.
We as parents ,love to have an important role in the magical unfolding of our children.
We are the invisible net of support and safety. We get to encourage self-exploring of child by deduction - by not intervening or interrupting, and by not showing preference to any particular type of activity. Instead, we can give the child a sense of total approval of her choices and actions.
Respecting and trusting him(as we did in early years:), we are responsible for exposing but not imposing.
How about "Talk and Walk Class for Toddlers 101"?
Interestingly, language is the hardest thing to learn (we all know if we try to learn any new language), and children do it all on their own.
In fact, the speediest learning in humans occurs in the youngest years, when children generally play all day, be on his own ,makes his own inference of failure ,try again and most important there is no adult intervention or expectation or comparisons . Maybe nature didn't goof - maybe we can trust our children.
Children are designed to be curious. From birth on, they want to know and figure out everything. Children are driven to succeed. They are constantly challenging themselves and can actually accomplish it . All we have to do is trust :)
Our anxiety for children to know certain things at specific ages is an enormous obstacle to trusting and allowing their natural development. When children play and learn on their own, they are the only qualified authors of this magical process. It is rarely too late to acquire knowledge, but often it is dangerously too early and out of harmony with the internal journey of the child.
We work from our preconditioned thoughts /beliefs and overlook the process . We look for results and that too results which are in sync with our perception and not child's learning/experimenting process. We send our child to any workshop or skill learning classes and expect results ,though we say that it can't be overnight but how much trust and patience do we show to wait for our desired level of result?
In our desire for results,we completely forget the process of learning which child is exploring.
What kind of activities are effective in growth and learning? The answer is simple: self-initiated, self-directed activity.
Our intervention and input actually gets in the way. It is obvious why negative input is destructive, but not so obvious that positive input is just as destructive: When a child, builds a tower of blocks, she is driven by a pure interest and joy of creation and learning. When Dad looks at her creation and exclaims enthusiasm, she shifts her interest from her blocks to the purpose of inducing an enthusiastic reaction out of Dad. This can build up over the years to a dependency upon adult evaluation and result in a lack of self-trust and a loss of interest in doing for its own sake.
The pleasing child is constantly dependent upon her success to live up to parental expectations and can lose touch with who she really is, and what she is interested in.
We as parents ,love to have an important role in the magical unfolding of our children.
We are the invisible net of support and safety. We get to encourage self-exploring of child by deduction - by not intervening or interrupting, and by not showing preference to any particular type of activity. Instead, we can give the child a sense of total approval of her choices and actions.
Respecting and trusting him(as we did in early years:), we are responsible for exposing but not imposing.
